Wednesday, February 25, 2009
Interesting that you feel so comfortable leaving me a message but block messages from being left on your site. I assume you've done that to avoid having people like yourself leave posts. First of all, you suggest I hold bake sales and raise money for research. That would be a wonderful thing to do, I agree, but I can't support every cause out there. I bonded to Lydia and Abby's stories because of a common bond we have - adoption. While I would love to be able to support cancer research I would be inclined to send support to my daughter's orphanage first. This last summer I raised the money and purchased cleft palate bottles to send to China - I am doing something. Second, you suggest I not just feel bad. Would you prefer that I have apathy toward you or your son? I have a heart and I don't want to see any child hurting. I can't imagine what it is like for the parents either. So, yes, I feel bad. I wish I could be with Lydia's family and offer them comfort right now. I can't. I wish cancer didn't exist, but I also wish cystic fibrosis didn't exist, and juvenile diabetes, and food allergies. But they do and I am only one person so I have to choose and it makes the most sense for me to choose those that are closest to my heart for various reasons. My son has a life threatening food allergy - he could die without warning. A friend's daughter has diabetes she has to be ever vigilant as well. I don't feel like I should have to justify myself, but I do feel that you need to know more about someone before becoming so agitated. I pray that your son will respond well to treatment so you are never in Cody's parent's shoes. And I will always know now how many people are affected by childhood cancer - thanks to families like Lydia's and Abby's. I wish you the best.